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The child sucks his or her thumb when they are very nervous, agitated or ill. Many parents are concerned about this as this is the habit which when formed in the childhood remains until a long time.

This is not a very serious but when it continues when the child is about to have his or her permanent teeth then it becomes serious as the teeth are distorted and the braces are the only solution.

If the child is sucking his or her thumb in a very aggressive manner then it is of concern to the parent. The thumb sucking is usually is an automatic gesture and most of the times the kid is also not aware about the sucking motion. Punishing a child over thumb sucking is not helpful as the child is sucking the thumb to gain comfort from it. You can give them a soft blanket or some toys that will comfort them and stop that thumb sucking.

Try to research a bit and find out when and why they start sucking the thumb. Try to find out way to distract him or her from sucking the thumb by giving them something to play with. The pediatric doctor can help you in giving tips for helping the child stop thumb sucking.

The enthusiasm in children goes as fast as it comes. In a minute, the children are as excited about any project and the other moment they are completely bored. Even in the case of studies, they tend to be quite bored with it. The excitement is very important but it is very short lived especially in the children.

Initially when the school starts, they are all excited to go back to school after summer holidays but within no time, they seem to be bored of the same activity. The main concern of the parents and the teachers is how to keep up the enthusiasm. After school program also face this problem.

From the beginning, make the child understand that the studies are very important and only if they learn they can come up in life like their fathers or mothers. Apart from their teachers, you can take active part in their studies, which make them happy. Make the studies fun activities.
The child should be given some incentive if they do well in their studies or after school activities. Once the child knows he will be appreciated he will put in more effort.

Let the child know that his hard work will get him to the place where his father or mother is today. Give them the details how you came up in life the hard way. This will set an example to the child.

Even if your child is not very good at studies or after school, programs try to encourage him by praising him. Do not criticize or put you child down in front of others. The children have a very sensitive mind and delicate ego so always be supportive of him even if he is not doing so well. Your encouragement will help him do better.

The Christmas is a very special time of the year; all are busy with decorating their houses, their shops, offices etc. This year are you prepared to decorate your house?

Try involving kids in the decorations, there are many shops, which sell readymade items for the decoration, you can help them do their own decorating either by buying the decorations from the shops or make your own. Making your own things is much more fun and the children can proudly inform everyone that they have done it themselves.

Can also try to involve kids in making their own trimmings and other decorative items. You can help them in choosing the items from the shop or making their own which will be fun for them as well as they will proud and can tell everyone that they have decorated the house by themselves.

One of the benefits in making their own Christmas decorations is the emotion of fulfillment that they will feel with the finished product. No matter whether the child is a six year old or a sixteen-year, they have the sense of achievement of doing something even if it is a small thing like an angel or a picture of Santa Claus.  In addition, if it is their own creation they will look forward to invite their friend’s home and enjoy themselves.

Making of their own decorations or paintings can be fun for the child and very proud moment when other family members and friends appreciate them. The craft paper or the glue is easily available at your local stationery shop and you should let your children go and decide for themselves what they would like to make of it. This is the time when they can display their talent and in turn your will be saving a lot of money and enjoy working with them.

You will also be spending your time with the children, which normally you must be not getting due to your jobs or other commitments. Therefore, these are the season of enjoyment and do so together. Besides, you and your children will likely enjoy the time that is being spent together. 

Once you are ready with the decorations by drying them, it is time to display them, ask your child where he/she wants to hang and help them ensure that the hard work put into the decorations does not go to waste.  When the time is right, you and your child could spend the rest of the day or evening decorating your home for Christmas. 

Taking out the anger can be a terrifying experience on your child. The abuse you inflict on them can have a lasting effect and decrementing on their growth. 

Try to curb your anger, find out what is the reason for that anger and try to control it. As a parent, you are given an opportunity to right the wrongs your parents or adults who used abusive languages on you. Do not do the same with your child what was done to you.
 
Be patient with the child and find out why the child is behaving in such a manner. It can be a learning process to find out why you feel that anger.

As a parent, you have to identify your own problems, it can be unfulfilled relationship or you are not getting enough recognition at work but not all this gives you permission to remove the frustration on your child. If the children see their parents angry they will also grow into the same and will talk to everyone the way they see their parents talking to them.

During the childhood, some of the accidents will occur try to ignore them and instead try some breathing exercises and calm yourself before talking to the child.

Anger management not only will keep you in check it will also keep your blood pressure down.

One can hear parents complaining about their children not listening to them. It is a mutual complain amongst parents and kids alike. Kids feel that their parents do not listen to them and vice versa. Parents have a big question in their mind to find out that how their children will listen to them?

Sometimes talking to our kids is very tough, but if we have determination and knack of doing this then it is a smooth sailing. For having harmony in the family, there should be good verbal interactions between parents and kids. Good parents are the ones who respect their children’s views and opinions, have a talk with them, listen to them and even exchange their own views with them. Being a parent it is not easy to admit that one is wrong, but we should keep our minds open as sometimes the way we see things are indeed wrong.

Parents generally overreact. We start evaluating our kids on the basis of our past experiences. This hinders our kids in opening up in front of parents. If we stop reacting and start responding then kids get the encouragement to be honest with their thoughts and views and will not fear of expressing them. This opens up the line for discussions and thus parent-kid can then come up with the answer to any problem that they may be facing at the time. This brings them closer to each other.

It is always advisable to stop doing whatever you are doing at the time when your kid comes to you with the problem. Consider their problem very seriously, even if it is a minor one. Maintain eye contact, be composed, ask questions and give answers only if they ask for. The kid will appreciate you for this.

Analyze their feelings; try to be in their shoes before passing out any judgment. As a parent, we have an impulse to be protective towards our child, do not do this. Listen to your kid and encourage him to find the solution and fight it out and not use the evasive methods.

You being there for your kids when they need you are the biggest gift that you can give to them. Even if you are not available physically but if your presence is felt in your kids time of their needs is enough. This is the ultimate gift to show them that YOU CARE.